Q: Do you think there is only one true love for everyone in this world?      B in New York

A: This is a philosphical question. But I can answer it with a question. Of all the matches out there of people ecstatic with their mates, do you think it practical and believable that they found "the one" person out of the entire population of the world? If you still believe this then you are a hopless romantic (and I applaud you). Obviously, I believe that a person could be wildy happy with any number of people.

Q: I've been going out with the same guy for 4 years. We are involved in every part of each other's lives but he doesn't feel we are ready for the next step. How long is too long?  Waiting in PA

A: You have asked a question that many people feel in your situation and I'm not being coy by saying every situation is different.Sometimes people aren't ready because it's not prudent (too young, still in school, going away for a long period, etc.) and sometimes people are just not ready. This second group is "undecided" because they are not ready; it usually has nothing to do with you. I say usually because sometimes the answer is, the other person is unsure if you are suitable for them. They will be ready when they are mature or secure enough or when they decide if you are suitable for them. Can you wait for them to come to this moment? Only you know the answer to this question. But don't hang on if you know in your heart the painful truth.